Family Problems

  • Domestic Violence
  • Spousal Rape
  • Anger Management
  • Stress ManagementDomestic Violence
  • Domestic violence is a pattern of coercive behavior that may include physical, sexual, economic, emotional, and psychological abuse of one family member or romantic partner by another.

The goal of domestic violence is to establish and maintain power and control. Ninety-five percent of the reported cases of domestic violence involve a male batterer and a female victim.

Although public awareness of domestic violence has increased dramatically over the past decade, it continues to be underreported and misunderstood.

Domestic violence often does not confine itself to the home, husbands and boyfriends are responsible for 13,000 acts of workplace violence each year. A woman can find it difficult to remain in her job when she is fleeing her abuser because of his knowledge of her work site location and his ability to contact her there. Her schooling may also be interrupted by the threat of him finding her on campus. However, corporations today are becoming increasingly sensitive to the needs of battered women and many may be willing to arrange job transfers for their employees who are abused. Colleges and training programs might also be able to transfer credit to other institutions so that a woman can continue her education elsewhere.

What Can Men do to Help Stop Domestic Violence?

Men can play a crucial role to stop domestic violence. Men are already an integral part of the community that supports and interacts with families dealing with violence. They are the majority of the judges, police officers and doctors who work with families in crisis. Some men are the neighbors, friends and family members who support victims by reaching out and lending a hand. Men are critical to violence prevention efforts because men are more likely to listen to other men when it comes to the perpetration of domestic violence and because fathers have enormous influence over the development of their children.

These are a few ways men can make a difference:

Be role models to other men.  Young men are uniquely positioned to reach out to other yong men who are violent at home, to let them know, “You need help and I want to help you.  Your behavior is not acceptable.”

-Take a vocal stand against domestic violence.  Men speaking out can have a powerful effect in helpling change social norms that support and perpetrate abuse.

-Reach out to a family where domestic violence is present. Just offering to listen and acknowledging what is going on helps chip away at the walls that surround and isolate families living with abuse.

-Act as a role model to a child who lacks a positive male figure in his life. A male mentor and friend can provide consistent support and even help the child make a safety plan.

-Take leadership role in a civic organization, such as sports clubs, churches and neighborhood associations and speak out against violence in the home.